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Get Him Back in the Mood

Remember the first time you got intimate? Picture how you were both excited and devoted to making it the best moment ever. He couldn’t take his hands off you. But lately, he’s been a little distant in the boudoir. Or maybe you’re feeling playful and he simply seems distracted.

Let’s face it. Getting a man in the mood isn’t usually a serious challenge. By their own admission, most guys are more than happy to engage in acts of intimacy at the drop of a dime. But we all have those days when we could use a little help in the romance department. And, besides, most guys are seriously turned on when their partner takes the lead.

The question that begs here is – What happened? How do you get it back? Did you get bored of each other? Or have you lost the sparks and the chemistry that made you not keep your hands off each other? But give up not sister! There is hope. Check out these well- researched, highly effective tips that will get his groove back on. They incorporate all of the senses and are guaranteed to put the zing back into your sex life. And at the very least, you’ll have a lot of fun trying them out together!

  1. Bath Time!

Prepare a candlelit, vanilla-scented, bubble bath, or set up the mood in your bathroom with the same. According to renowned neurologist Alan Hirsch, vanilla is the aroma that arouses men most. Add a few more key ingredients to your sensual bath potion, such as you waiting for him in the tub with two glasses of wine, and before you know it; his game will be back on.


  1. Massage

Send the ‘message’ by giving your man by giving him a sensual massage, and incorporate some items with diverse textures, such as a silk scarf, a feather or a woollen sweater. Be creative, but be sure to choose things that will feel different on his skin. Light a scented cinnamon candle (cinnamon is a known aphrodisiac for men), and choose a massage oil with aphrodisiac properties, such as lavender or frankincense. And don’t forget the blindfold – for him.

  1. Let me whisper in your ear.

In your sexiest voice, leave a message on his voice mail about what it is that draws you to him and why you can’t wait to see him later – the breathier the better.

  1. Eye see you!

Staring contests are a childhood staple, but this is one kids’ game worth revisiting as adults. Staring directly into the eyes of your lover without breaking your gaze can be a powerful tool for arousal, and it can also enhance intimacy during lovemaking.

  1. Music

Make a collection of his favourite tunes or a compilation of love songs that have some special meaning to the two of you. Put it in a CD or flash disk and leave it on his car seat for him to find in the morning on his way to work, and he’ll think about you all day.




  1. Poetry

Write a poem about the first time you met and read it to him before bed. It can be traditional or naughty, your choice!

  1. Food

Prepare his favourite lunch, with a little something extra tucked inside: A deliciously raunchy note from you, informing him of what you intend to do when you see him.

  1. Flowers

Send him a bouquet. While most guys probably won’t readily admit it, there are very few who wouldn’t enjoy receiving flowers from someone they care about. In fact, a recent Rutgers University study showed that men who receive flowers demonstrate increased social interaction and happiness. Choose his favourite colours, or pick a sensual palette of reds, blues and purples. And don’t forget to enclose a sweet, sexy note

  1. Chocolate

While the female love affair with chocolate is well-documented, according to a recent study, men who consumed it also felt less lonely and depressed. Combine this news with chocolate’s known aphrodisiac properties for both sexes and you have a winning combo when it comes to revving up the mood for love making.