Why is goal setting important? Because personal development is a lifelong pursuit and life is a work in progress. Because goals can help you do, be, and experience everything you want in life. There will never be a day that will not require dedication, discipline, good judgement, energy and the feeling that you can improve. Each moment is an advance or retreat in the pursuit of your goals.
Successful and happy women have a vision of how their life should be and they set a lot of goals (both short term and long range) to help them reach their vision. By setting goals this year, you are taking control of your life. It’s like having a map to show you where you want to go.
Think of it this way, there are two drivers; one has a destination in their mind (her goal) which is laid out for her on a map. She can drive straight there without wasting time or wrong turns. The other driver has no goal, destination or map. She starts off at the same time from the same place as the first driver, but she drives aimlessly around, never getting anywhere, just using fuel and oil. Which driver do you want to be?
Winners in life set goals and follow through on them. Winners decide what they want in life and then get there by making plans and setting goals. Unsuccessful people just let life happen by accident. Goals aren’t difficult to set – and they aren’t difficult to reach. It’s up to you to find out what your goals, ideals and visions really are. You are the one who must decide what to pursue and in what direction to aim your life. You are responsible for your own personal development. It’s a solo act!
Tips for Setting Goals:
The Six P’s:
Research tells us that when we write a goal down, we are more likely to achieve it. Written goals can be reviewed regularly, and have more power. Like a contract with yourself, they are harder to neglect or forget. Also, when you write your goals in a particular fashion, you are able to stimulate your subconscious to continuously respond to situations that will further your goals. In order for your written goals to have the greatest impact, write them by incorporating the special power of these six P’s of goal setting.
- Be positive:
Goals must be stated in positive rather than negative terms. (“I am a neat and organised person,” rather than “I am no longer unorganised”).
- Use present tense:
Goals must be written as though they are happening now or they have already happened. The subconscious mind only operates in the now. If you create goals in the future tense, your subconscious will never get there.
Goals must be about you, and under your control, not about someone else.
- Be precise:
Goals must be clear and describe exactly what you want to do.
Goals must be realistic and within the realm of possibility to achieve.
Use words that convey action and emotion. Write your goals and place them where you will see them at least twice a day. If possible, read them aloud and visualize what you are saying.
Why People Fail:
- Action without planning:
When it comes to your goals and future, impulsiveness is the mother of regret. Considerable thought must be given to the ends, as well as the means of your strategy.
- Planning without action:
Endless preparation is worse than action without planning. Accept that things will never be perfect. Questions will forever exist. Plan well and launch!
- Unrealistic timeframe and expectations:
Life is a process, not an event. Exercise wisdom and learn to be patient. Unfortunately, most things in life take longer and cost more than the best-laid plans anticipated.
Why you want to achieve a goal is more important than the goal itself. Before taking action on anything, it is important that you ask yourself this key question; “Why do I want to achieve this goal?”
It’s far easier to deny reality than it is to accept it. And far too many people take what seems like the easy way out. Success is information dependent, when we deny reality for whatever reason; we devalue the integrity of our information, thus ensuring failure.
- Conflicting values:
When we have not clarified our reason why, or defined what success means to us personally, we operate on someone else’s definition. When that occurs, values are sure to be in conflict and progress is short-circuited.
- Diffusion of energy:
Attempting to do too much is a recipe for mediocrity. Rather than doing an excellent job at a few chosen goals, we spend our energies over a vast terrain and diffuse what matters most; time and energy.
- Lack of focus:
Success demands focus. It is the hallmark of all truly great people. Your ability to get and remain focused or lack of thereof is perhaps the key determinant of your success.
- Doing it alone:
Nobody goes through life alone; we all need the cooperation and assistance of others. Put your pride aside and learn to ask for help when you need it. Learn to leverage and share knowledge for your own well being, as well as for other who are dependent on your cooperation.
- Fear of failure:
Fear of failure is the “Grand father” of them all. Far too many dreams have suffocated and died because of this. Fear resides where knowledge does not exist. The more you know about anything, the less intimidated you feel. Replace your fears with knowledge and watch your performance leap.
What You See is What You Get:
Visualizations are the pictures of achievement we have of ourselves. Those pictures greatly affect the outcomes we produce. If we see ourselves succeeding and attaining our goals, we very likely will. If, on the other hand, we have no image of success or fail to create an image of failure, we very likely will fail.
Visualizing is something everyone does, everyday. You can make the technique of visualization work for you. You can use it to help achieve your goals by seeing yourself achieving your goals. In giving you these guidelines, we are hoping for your success this year and others to come.